Disclosures can come in many forms; it could be something said jokingly, a story that someone starts to tell then stops and says it doesn't matter, or it could be a question. You are not expected to be a specialist in the above issues, but how someone responds to a disclosure can be an important step in help-seeking. It can take time for a person to decide what they want to do and how they want to move forward.
What can I do to help?
- Get immediate help. If the person is in immediate danger, or seriously injured, call 999.
- Find a safe space. If an incident has just happened, try and find somewhere the person feels safe. If you are at the School, you can seek support from the Security desk.
- Just taking the time to listen to someone and talk about what has happened can help. These six active listening tips might help you support them.
- Tell the person you are concerned. If they are not at immediate risk, encourage them to get support and consider helping them to make the initial contact. Remember that the most important thing is to respond in a way that maximises their choice and control over what happens next. You can simply ask them what they need or want. They might not make the same decision you would; however, only they can decide what is best for them. You can help them explore options, but avoid telling them what they should do.
- Provide information: Ensure that they are aware of these pages. Explain that anyone can report a crime to the police by calling 999 in an emergency, using the non-emergency number 101, or attending any police station.
- Take care of yourself. If you’ve heard or seen something distressing, or if you want to speak to somebody about your concerns, there are people and services available to support you.
The Report and Support system has specific information if you are concerned that someone you know is experiencing/has experienced:
- Sexual violence
- Hate incidents & hate crime
- Discrimination
- Bullying & harassment
- Domestic violence & relationship abuse
- Stalking
- Spiking